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I hate it when I can't help

I'm doing fine, myself. But a couple of the people I care about are really depressed today about things in their lives. It was getting me down too for awhile. I just want to make everything okay. But its not in my power. There are little things I can do, of course, to make them feel better, and advice I can give. But I can't really fix the root problems. Sometimes its hard to let go, even of things that should have nothing to do with me, even of things that people need to deal with on their own anyway.

And when I get to brainstorming about things I could do to help, it reminds me that helping one person can sometimes put another person in a worse situation. And that sometimes in the past I have had problems with taking care of other people too much and not looking out for my own self enough.

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phoenixredux
May. 10th, 2006 03:50 am (UTC)
If it helps at all, I'm feeling much better after my scuba class. I swam about 20 laps in the Olympic pool, and practiced some dives and kicks and stuff. It didn't solve any of my problems, I guess, but sometimes a good workout can blow out some of the bad brain chemistry, you know? That, and some spicy sushi with wasabi. This is the best I've felt since Sunday evening. :)
perruche_verte
May. 10th, 2006 08:50 pm (UTC)
Just from my own experience, I find that I'm best able to help other people when I'm in a balanced and happy place myself, and when I'm just detached enough to let them own their own problems.
ua_dubhne
May. 16th, 2006 06:30 am (UTC)
You make me feel better, just by letting me look into your eyes.
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